Niceness Overlooked

Kindness is seen as weakness and generosity is something to be exploited. Being nice is considered a weakness in today's world. People stomp all over you and leave. It is a quality that is slowly disappearing in people and one day it might actually become extinct.

Don't open your box of niceness for everyone. Make sure the person on the receiving end deserves every bit of it.

Depression

Depression - It starts with a conflict of aspirations and reality. We are taught to keep our aspirations high, but when we don't see results, when we see ourselves different from the socially optimum, or when we feel  like we are missing something in our life that we deserve; our mind tries to understand the reasons and if it fails to do so, the mind turns to self pity. This self pity grows on you over a period of time and it lowers your confidence.

Your mind quickly turns into 'ego save' mode. It looks for external factors to prove to you that you are worth something. You hunt for the smallest appreciation for your existence. If in this desperate state, you do not get that dose of appreciation to keep you afloat; you drown. You drown into this deep state of mental illness where it seems like you are living in a different reality. You look at things and they don't seem real. You try to work on something and it feels like a waste of time. Life seems so dark, sorrow surrounds you and nothing around you interests you anymore.

Broken Expectations

Is it fair to have expectations from people? Everyone has a different mentality, some match with ours and some are so confusing for us to understand that we call them "retarded". These retarded people have their own justification process which blinds them from the right and wrong the way we see it. While we may consider their actions offensive, they are being completely rational (in their minds).

Many things cause this difference in thinking and after a certain point in life these habits are engraved into our mental conscious so deep that they can't be removed. As you move forward in life you will meet many people who think different than you. If you choose to change the way they think because it is different than yours, you are entering a world of conflict and pain. Unless you are sure about your love for him/her and you are willing to dedicate a major part of your life to change them for the better, don't go down that road, and if you do, do not expect any short term results.

Better Than Everybody Else

Its not about striving to be better than everybody else. You get lost in the competition and forget who you really are, what you really want and what makes you happy. In the end, if you do get a sense of achievement of being better than everybody else, you will have no one to share it with.

Change Yourself, Not Your World

The key is to change yourself. You are the only person you can change. The world will change at its own pace. If you put all the effort in changing whats around you, you will eventually give up because you can't. The only person you can change is yourself and when that change happens, things around you change to make space for the new you.

Change does not happen all of a sudden. It is hard to change the direction of a flowing river with a small rock, but you keep adding a rock everyday you can one day make a wall that is strong enough to make the change.